Reflection to Myself on my Birthday

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It’s my birthday today!!!! I absolutely love this day because it’s dedicated to enjoying multiple free coffees and being surrounded by the ones I love! Thank you to everyone that has already made me feel so special!

My sweet friend Anne from Mindfulness in the Midwest recently had her birthday and wrote down some reflection questions that she asked herself. As you know, I’m very into self reflection at the moment and so what better way to acknowledge my birthday here on than to do a self reflection? Earlier this week I grabbed a cup of coffee and sat down to think about my wonderful life. It’s a long post so snuggle in, grab a drink and your cozy blanket, and enjoy!

What do I like about my life?

I love my people. I love that I have a higher awareness about who I am and what I expect from myself. I love going to school, taking time for myself, being spontaneous with friends.

What are some things I want to be different by next year?

I want to be more financially stable (no more “broke college kid”). I’ll be in a new city, with a new job and I want to be acclimated well.

What is the most important habit or activity to add or subtract from day-to-day living?

Add: Time to decompress. It can just be a minute or it can be a long time, a solo vacation or a weekend away. But time to take a breath and be present in the day.

Subtract: Worry. Stop worrying what people think and obsessing over the small details. Life is good. Your world is good and large. Take advantage of that.

How would I rate my life in the realms of career, finances, health, relationships, growth, fun, and lifestyle?

Career: I love being a student and I honestly think I’m going to have an identity crisis when I graduate and am no longer a student. I have a job lined up for after graduation and I am so excited to begin the journey! 9/10

Finances: Refer to above about sorrows of being a broke college student 🙂 I can’t wait to have a real paycheck. 3/10

Health: My health is in a great place at the moment. I’m working out five-six days a week and I’m being conscious about eating healthy (although it’s a lifestyle so bring on the thin vanilla Oreo’s!). 7/10

Relationships: So much goodness on this front at the moment. Being away at school means all family relationships take cultivation but it’s so worth it. Friendships mean coffee dates and wine nights and I really try to keep my days open for these opportunities. I realized this year that I rather have 4 quarter than 100 pennies in terms of friends. And of course, all is good on the boyfriend front! 10/10

Growth: All the growth! 21 was the year of so much conscious growth and I have become in tune with my inner voice and soul. 10/10

Fun: My friends joke that I am not the mom of the group, but the grandma. In bed by 10:30 and up at 6. Opting for quite mornings over late party nights. But that’s what’s fun for me. College only happens once and the finish line is dangerously close. I want to make an effort of jumping in on the fun because I can sleep when I graduate! 6/10

Lifestyle: I enjoy my weekly schedule of working certain days and going to school the others. Having Fridays off isn’t a bad gig either! It allows me to arrange my days how I see fit and I never feel like I am burnt out or exhausted at the end of the day… am I doing college wrong? Ha! 8/10

If there’s a gap between where I am now and where I want to be, what’s one step I can take now to close that gap?

I think I want to be more authentic. I am making strides in 2018 to accomplish that including making monthly goals that align with what is going on in my life.

Did you take anything for granted? How will you change that?

I think I took for granted the idea that I am able to go to college. I had a lot of help from my parents, professors, and peers to help me get where I am today. I often find myself saying “I just need to get to Friday.” That needs to stop because I am so lucky to be able to get a higher education. Being aware of these thoughts and stopping them when they creep in will be the first way to address change. Also, enjoy everyday even if it is mundane or stressful. You are g

Are there negative thoughts that I need to get rid of?

You are enough, in all the senses you are enough. Your work, friendship, beauty, fitness, blog is enough. Stop thinking otherwise.

Do I have any fears I need to conquer?

Go places! Do things! I want to travel the world and do things like spend a week in Italy. But, I get afraid of the vastness of the world and the negative outcomes. It all becomes so overwhelming that I end up sitting still. I want to move and jump on these things.

What is one mistake from last year you can learn from for this year?

I would get caught up in what everyone else was going and then feel awful for doing things I didn’t think was right (like gossiping, complaining, etc.) I can learn to listen to that inner voice telling me what is right.

Where has the time gone? What have you spent most of your time doing?

Ugh where HAS the time gone??? I spent most of my time:

  • at school: learning
  • at home: relaxing
  • with my family: bonding
  • with my friends: celebrating every day
  • at work: connecting
  • at the gym: working hard
  • with my boyfriend: loving life


If you are feeling like doing a reflection I highly suggest using these questions as a guide. I had the absolute best time being twenty-one and I have a feeling twenty-two will be full of lots of change that I’m ready to embrace. Here’s to enjoying it all!

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